What are group homes for the mentally ill like?
Cement Sphynx Asked: What are group homes for the mentally ill like?
I have Asperger's, bipolar I, PTSD and somatoform disorder. I take services from the DMH. My DMH worker has been talking about possibly putting me in a group home when I'm 18, which will be soon, to help me gain the skills to transition into independent living. I'm currently living with my mother. I'm worried that a group home will be restrictive of my freedom, and I don't entirely trust my case worker when he says it will be a great place. While he seems nice, well-meaning and open-minded, I've learned the hard way that well-meaning people will sometimes distort the truth or lie in an attempt to help me, and often their ideas on how to help me end up actually hurting me. For reference, I am in Massachusetts. Here are my concerns:
1. I take part in activist work. While I do work that won't get me arrested, it is work that can be controversial. Can a group home stop me from doing this?
2. I am transgender, specifically a female-bodied, transmasculine genderqueer. How likely is ill treatment for this?
3. I have two boyfriends. They know about each other and consent to the situation without any pressure or secrecy. I have sex with both of them (not at the same time, at least not yet), and my mother is okay with that as I am above the age of consent and she trusts me to have sex safely. One of my boyfriends is in a different city than mine and I have to use the commuter rail to visit. Will a group home stop me from having sex or visiting my partner?
4. Can a group home force me to take my medication? I am hoping to go off it at some point in the future, once I have better coping skills.
Their are also residential facilities to look into. Group homes are only one program you could get into. There are usually 2 people who stay in the group home who oversees the people living there. Their will be rules and regulations you have to follow, such as a curfew and taking your medications , they will have you do that. Their will be schedules and routines to follow as well as household chores .DEpending on how your disabilities affect your overall daily functioning will determine how much freedom you will have. In a group home they will try to help clients find a job and be a contributing members of society. You will live with other people and will expect you to abide with their schedule and routines.
From my PERSONAL experience, a group home is the last place you specifically would want to live. Most people (not all) who work in group home are not well educated and will not understand your lifestyle choices or support them. Your personal freedom will be extremely restricted. You will not be allowed to spend the weekends with your boyfriend as these are considered days when the group is not paid, yet you are taking up space. You will very likely share a bedroom, so overnight visits will be out on account of that if, not just as a general policy. I could go on – but I sincerely doubt a group home will allow you to live the life you have grown accustomed to.
There is an alternative. You can live independently with supports in place. You could have a roommate who acts as a support person who you choose. You could live with another person and the two of you share a support staff.You could continue to live at home but with greater adult responsibility and independence.
gurl…i am sorry, but dat is f*cked up! lolz…seriously, I thank my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ everyday that I don't have your problems!
God Bless you!…seriously…I hope it all works out somehow…I didnt realize how tough life can be for some people…